Thursday, July 12, 2012

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We bought an elliptical machine.  L will now have something else to watch bob up and down whilst she chills on her play mat everyday. 

It was time.

Not time, necessarily, to purchase an expensive-ass piece of exercise equipment, but time to get my rear in gear, re: my not-yet-lovely lady lumps

Some days I see my reflection in the microwave and I think, eh, looking pretty good there, sister. 

Then I'll suddenly catch a glimpse of myself in the bathroom and scream WHO IS THAT CHUBBY GIRL AND WHAT IS SHE DOING WEARING MY HAIR?

And then I'll remember the microwave is a secret skinny-mirror.

It's a radiant cooker packaged in treachery, I tell you.

So, yeah, exercise and diet.  Let's do this.  I will own colored skinny jeans in a non-offensive size come October.

AS BLOG AS MY WITNESS!

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VENT:

I'm honestly about to lose my Mama Shit over here, re: bedtime.

I'll tell y'all, it's a good thing my child is cuter than a fuzzy baby bunny in a wee chef hat baking pink cupcakes, because she keeps GROWING UP and CHANGING THINGS on me and it's NOT COOL.

So, 3 or so weeks ago, she was still in the same old {relatively lovely} routine to which she's been accustomed the past month prior... asleep by 7:30, briefly awake at 3:30 to eat, up for the day anywhere between 6:30 - 7:30.

This was so doable. I was Miss Suzy Sunshine farting rainbows and singing my child's praises -- sleep through the night, schmeep through the night, this schedule was JUST FINE.

Then we went to Atlanta and she got all thrown off... waking up 2 or 3 times in the night instead of once. That... sucked.  So I tried giving her a bottle to make sure her belly was full.  That worked for about 2 nights... and then she decided the bottles were filled with battery acid.  See also: pacifiers.

So we tried cluster feeding.  That worked... until it didn't.

Finally, on some odd intuition, I took away her sleep sack..

And she slept from 7:30 until 7:00.

Glory, glory, hallelujah!

But, now... NOW she's fighting sleep like it's her job... taking an hour and a half to two hours to be put down at night.

We are on Night Three of Bedtime Rebellion.

And yes, before you suggest anything from the Baby Sleep Section on Amazon, I've read it.  Or read enough of it to know it's not for us right now.

{We are in the Fuss It Out Camp, but have yet to graduate to Cry It Out.  I am not above Ferberizing but tend to think there is a developmental reason Ferber suggests CIOing at 6 months and not before... and, as if to prove this point, when left alone to scream for 3 minutes tonight (after trying everything else to no avail), L promptly threw up her supper.  Message received, loud and clear, not ready for that yet.}

So yeah. I'd actually rather her go back to being an angel at bedtime and waking up once at 3:30.  That required less booze stress on my liver brain.


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On a lighter note, I love Sandra Boynton's books.  They are clever and funny, and the illustrations are not only cute, but have enough going on in them that you can "discuss" after you're done reading {"oh look at the cow! what does the cow say?" etc, etc, etc}.

HOWEVER.

Some pages leave me feeling... awkward, re: CAMEL TOE. 


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It's not every single one of Sandy's animal friends, but it's enough of them to raise an eyebrow. 

So, now, when we read Blue Hat, Green Hat, we not only talk about what's wrong with what the turkey's wearing, we also discuss why the elephant's skin-trousers are too snug. 

Life lessons learned young, people.  That's how I roll. 

34 comments:

  1. My LO did the same around L's age. A earlier bedtime ended up being the fix for us. Good luck and hang in there!

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  2. A wonder week perhaps?
    The only thing constant is... change.
    Good luck.
    And I'll never look at a Sandra Boynton book the same way ever again.

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  3. oh sweet L... don't you know mama needs her sleep? (i am counting on you to remember EXACTLY what worked for bedtime magic when you figure it out so in a few months, i can use you as a resource when our own little bunny is not respecting bedtime! )

    also... yes, the skin-trousers are WAY too snug. and awkward.

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  4. She's four months right? We dealt with that too- DH is back to good sleeping now, but it was a month or so of hell.

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  5. I have zero maternal wisdom to impart here - super sorry she's not sleeping well and that's making you tired slash grumpy slash in need of a drink. I can't imagine. Well I can imagine, and I hope I get to experience that kind of exhaustion some day... anyways. I chimed in here to say that it is one of my wildest fantasies to have an elliptical machine in front of a tv where I can watch my trashy shows in the comfort of my own home while being fit. Congrats on that purchase!

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  6. We had the exact same situation when my little guy hit 3 months. I was smug mugging it at playgroup about my "awesome" sleeper (9 straight hours), and then he showed me who was sleep boss. Up 4-5 times per night, cluster feeding, wanting to sleep no where but physically on top of me...we unswaddled, we coslept, we moved him to his crib, we moved him back to our room, we let him sleep in the swing when nothing else worked. We tried Ferberizing at 6 months (worked until he got sick), 8 months (worked until we went on vacation), and now we're finally seeing some progress at 11 months (knock on wood). The kid is just stubborn!

    I feel like as soon as I get something "figured out" he pulls the old switcheroo on me! Hang in there, Mama!

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  7. Have you heard of "Moms on Call"? Their method is amazing and has worked wonders for us!

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  8. Ahhh I totally agree. Post Max's arrival I only look at my reflection in the oven. In the bedroom mirror, I am completely horrified at what I see. My muffin top is like a jumbo muffin.

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  9. I really hate to give suggestions for two reasons. One, I wouldn't want anyone to think I have it all together because I certainly do not! And two, I feel there is some form of Mommy Karma that will bite me in the bum and ruin all the good I have going if I suggest it to others. With that being said, I'm going out on a limb here..have you tried solids? I didn't really want to try solids until 6 months per AAP recommendations, but my usually excellent sleeper started waking up at four months too. Moms on Call recommends starting solids at about four months, so we tried it and it has been working. Bananas, avocados and sweet potatoes are winners around here. I just mash them up myself- no jars. Oh and she exhibited NONE of the signs of being ready for solids, yet she eats with gusto. Good luck! If you're a nice person with limited sleep, you're a better person than I am! I'm fed up with being chubby too- breastfeeding makes it so hard to lose weight!

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    1. I've definitely considered it but we are really gung-ho about Baby Led Weaning and I'm not sure she's ready to pick foods up? Maybe we'll give it a go as an experiment. :)

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  10. Julia had a similar rebellion about four months old. I think it's growth spurt, but I'm certainly no expert. As far as solids, I think ESB might be on to something. Julia didn't show the typical signs either and while we are giving her plenty to grab with her hands I am spoon feeding brown rice cereal and she loves it!

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  11. Our pediatrician recommended we start introducing solids with her now that she's 4 months but only because we had stopped breastfeeding already (already got over that Mommy guilt but it wasn't pretty). If she were still breastfeeding he recommended waiting until 6 months.

    We do a little later bed time 8-8:30 and that works for her pretty well but it's all trial and error since sometimes she still wakes up other nights all the way through(no pattern) so mostly just sending support to get through the bedtime rebellion quickly.

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  12. Not going to give suggestions, just sending good sleep vibes!! But had to comment on Sandra Boynton - despite being insanely thrilled she shares my hometown, my kiddos LOVED her books and some of my fondest memories of my (now big) babies are reading Pajama Time and Not the Hippopotomus (2 favs). I even had Sandra's hippo border in the kids bathroom!!! Love her and love the animals.....although I side-eye the camel toe as well......:)

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  13. It always make me nervous to hear about babies reverting with regards to sleep like this. Why does it happen to some and not to others?? I wish I had some amazing words of wisdom to glean for you but I'm stumped. Hopefully she gets things figured out soon.

    Oliver is almost 7 months old and for him we do cereal, bath, bottle, white noise machine and that has worked since he was about 3 months old. I'm sure you're already doing those things but I figured I'd at least tell you our routine.

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  14. I am with the commenter above who is afraid to give suggestions because of mommy karma, but here is my two cents. My son went through a 4mos wakeful phase. The Bump mentions it as well. I think it might be a stage. And he came out of it when we started him on solids so it might work. Good luck and I hope you get more sleep soon! :-)

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  15. Honey ,
    You will get through this. the weight will come off and the baby girl will sleep. My girl did the same thing at the same age.And just when I was at my wit's end she changed on me.
    Do what works for you. Even if it includes a drive around the block.. alone ;)
    xo

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  16. I've been through this (and worse) with a bad sleeper. Then, I had a baby who was complete different, and easier. My only advice? I believe babies are different and there is no one size fits all solution. I hate when people pushed CIO on me. I've read all the books, and now believe that you just need to do what seems right for your baby. The only thing that seems universally sensible to me is a bedtime routine. Other than that, do what is right for you, and don't get bullied by anyone else.

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  17. 4 months is exactly when my now toddler decided to start waking up at night. She slept from 9 PM to almost 6 AM every night starting at 6 weeks and then boom at 4 months she was wide awake at 4 AM with no hints of going back to sleep. I really worked with the sound machine before feeding her to sleep again. Most of the time she just needed a way to sooth herself into sleep again. Even now at 20 months, you can gear her around 4 AM every once and awhile. She talks for about 5 minutes in her sleepy state and then she is back to dreamland until about 730-8 AM.

    Also, this post literally cracked me up. Will never be able to read those books again without a silent giggle!

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  18. messy baby cereal, bath, breast and bed. P.S. you are seriously funny. Camel toe! We actually have a girl that plays on our tennis team in yoga pants. She is always sporting a camel toe. They make tennis skirts for a reason...to be worn while playing tennis.

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  19. Have you tried asking her pediatrician? When my daughter was 4 months old her delightful sleep schedule of 7pm-8 am changed to 9pm-6am. And wanted to nap more during the day. So it was suggested i feed more during the day. Then miraculously, it went back to normal. I didn't do solids until she was 7 months, and I had a BIG kid, and I am glad I didn't. Sometimes it's just a bump in the road. You are doing great!

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    1. Ya know, I did at her 4 mo appt. She said not to be concerned and that we can discuss sleep training at 6 mo. Good to know and all, but that doesn't really help me for the next 6 weeks and all, right?! :)

      Feeding her more does help - it definitely solved the multiple night wake ups... We just need to get over that Bed Time Hump!

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    2. I feel you. Sometimes there is just nothing to fix it. My 3-year old just recently started waking up religiously at 3 AM. For NO REASON. All the reading I have done says to 'ignore' her and put her back to sleep. So maybe try it with L. Re-tuck her in, tell her it's bed time and walk out. :-)

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  20. Ooh those first year ups and downs. It's so hard to recognize in the (exhausting, frustrating) moment. . .it's just too hard to see the forest for the trees, you know. . .but the first year really is just a series of phases that come and go naturally. I was not even tempted to suggest any good reading materials, because the one that I happen to swear by (Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child) says that babies are in no way ready developmentally to try crying it out until at least 8 months old, but also, he says that it's definitely not the only way to sleep-train a baby, and possibly not even a great way. That advice sat well with me, because while it all sounds great in theory (the crying it out stuff), my mama heart just couldn't get over feeling like it was cruel when it was my own little one screaming uncontrollably--leaving her that way was just not something I could do. That is, until she was 10 months old and I tried it out of desperation one night and she literally cried for 6 minutes and then fell asleep for 12 hours. The next night, it was 4 minutes, then out for 12 hours, and every night after that it was maybe a minute or two of crying and then out from 6:30pm to 6:30am. 6 minutes of crying was sad, but I could handle it. I had given myself a 10 minute threshold, which luckily we didn't meet. I just know I'm not the kind of person who could have listened to her sobbing for a half hour or more.

    But that's actually not my point at all! My point is that L is certainly too little to think about crying it out yet, but other than that, unfortunately, I don't have much for you. Just try to convince yourself that each of these little stages goes by really quickly, it's only a few months out of your life, and while being tired and frustrated is no fun, it will pass, it will pass.

    Oh, and I saw the comments above about trying solids, which I know does help some babies sleep better, but two things. One, as you suggested, L is certainly too little to be picking up anything herself, but I'm sure you know that's not where you start with solids. Babies are spoon fed (usually starting with rice cereal because of its mildness and infrequency of allergies to it and digestive problems with it), usually for a few months, before they're ready to actually pick anything up by themselves. Four months is the early end, but if you wanted to there's no harm in trying just a little bit of rice cereal, mixed with pumped breastmilk or formula, to see if she likes it. Trust me, it'll be very easy to tell if she's not ready for it yet, she will either just not be willing to let it into her mouth, or she'll spit it right back out. That's normal at first, because the mouth function for spoon feeding is so different from sucking, but if you try a dozen spoonfuls and she still spits them right back out, then she's not ready.

    But honestly I think trying rice cereal would be more for your peace of mind, just assuring yourself that the sleep issue is not hunger-related. Unfortunately, I think you're just in one of those rough patches that you have to tough out and make it to the next stage. Maybe now isn't the best time to hit the diet super hard? A glass of wine and a few squares of dark chocolate can really help with those rough patches.

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    1. We are actually going to do Baby Led Weaning which skips purees and rice cereal entirely.

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  21. I feel your pain. We have a great sleeper...once she is asleep. But getting her to sleep seems to be a on and off battle. We'll have a few good weeks followed by a horrible week and so on. One thing that did seem to help with bedtime was routine. I was doing baths every few days because I was worried about drying out her skin. But finally I started doing baths every night so we could have the exact same bedtime routine each night. This really did seem to help. We have dinner at 7pm followed by bath, baby oil massage, pj's, story and nurse. Pre-6 months we nursed to sleep. That had mixed results. So at 7 months we started nursing the laying her down awake. That was rough for a few nights. Now it works pretty good. But now we are stuck to this routine and if heaven forbid anything changes or we are 30 minutes late getting home or whatever we have a really bad night. And we pretty much can't leave town without going back to square one. I often have to remind myself that there will come a day when we simply say, "Margot it's bedtime." And there will be no tears. Right?

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    1. A bedtime routine has DEFINITELY helped clue her in to the fact that it's bedtime! We do a bath, massage, PJs, book, nurse, crib as of right now. Like you said, sometimes nursing to sleep is great and sometimes it's not. E can put her to sleep LIKE A CHARM...but he works late at least 3 nights a week. I know it's just her a-changing and that we'll eventually figure it out but it's definitely frustrating until then!

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  22. Congrats on getting an elliptical - I'm jealous! Have you ever heard of MyFitnessPal? It's a website & app that you can use to track calories, workouts, etc. I struggled with losing 15 lbs for years and finally lost it over the last few months with the help of this app. Highly recommend it. Definitely friend me if you join - my username's cestlawvie.

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  23. SEVERAL THINGS...

    - I just joined Weight Watchers and started Couch to 5K. I was using the "BUT I'M NURSING!" excuse for eating whatever I want and it's Just. Not. Working.

    -I nursed Henry to sleep every night until he was over 6 months old. We've had to do SOME sleep training (which truly killed me) but it's working. He knows how to get to sleep (though he doesn't always WANT to go to sleep). I was never, ever, ever going to sleep train. But, I do agree that waiting until 6 months is best. It breaks my heart to hear that people are sleep training teeny newborns and such.
    (Also: I do not believe that introducing solids early helps babies sleep through the night, by the way. My son eats a TON and he's still up twice a night to eat. I'd stick with your BLW plan)

    - I am now checking out the animals in every single one of our Sandra Boynton books. Also: they had them at Costco recently, 3 for $12.99!

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  24. I thought I was doing pretty well re: post-baby (and post-post-baby extra) weight loss goals. Then I saw a photo of myself from my niece's birthday this past weekend. Ugh. An elliptical machine is not in my stay-at-home budget, but, as another commenter mentioned, its time to stop using breastfeeding as an excuse to eat 4 (or more, eek!) every night.
    I wish you the best with sleep. At 9 months we still struggle (and solids didn't do a damned thing). I'm a wimp about crying and sleep training...

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  25. Sam went through the same sleep regression phase at four months. Oh, sleepless nights, I certainly do NOT miss you. And it happened again around seven months. I honestly don't think I could have done anything to avoid it or change it, they were just phases he had to outgrow. And he did. And so will L!

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  26. I have an elliptical and I love it! I bribe myself with Hulu shows. I also strap my 10 mo old in the Ergo and work out (extra resistance and it puts him right to sleep!).

    Speaking of sleep he still wakes up to nurse every 2-3 hrs at night. Luckily he eats and is right back to sleep. Baby sleep is such a tricky thing! Hang in there it will get easier! :)

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  27. oh :/ I hope it gets better soon ... And keep it going with the elliptical! :D New follower!

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  28. At least it wasn't a camel in the photo. Because that would have definitely been a Disney/Freudian slip.

    Hilarious. I also have done my reading and want to cut anyone who tells me to consult XYZ book about sleep. Unless I end sentences with a question mark in discussing how you mastered this whole baby sleep sitch, I don't want advice and especially not advice in the form of "your bible" or whateverthehell you plan to share.

    And damn that radiant slimmer of a microwave.

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  29. Consider me supporting you from Missouri! I've been struck by some deceitful skinny mirrors myself and think I'll steal your colored skinny denim goal. My birthday is the last day of September and that's also the next time I see my grad school pals for a residency weekend and I think I shall make that my goal! Because everyone knows that when you have a goal, you should blog about it. :)

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